Please don’t breed if you can’t be responsible.

 

Remember that time, when your little girl tugged at your sleeve for attention. You were too busy reading that paper to entertain her. You continued to ignore her, until she got really tired and walked away. Your little girl wanted to show you that drawing she did in school. That drawing that got her a little star. She wanted you to be the first person to share it to. Now, she would think twice before she shares anything with you. She has begun to think whatever she achieves will never be important to you.

Remember that time, your little girl was learning to ride a bike. She fell and you said, “you deserve it!”. That’s when she begun to believe failures are shameful and you cannot be trusted with her dreams.

 

Remember that time, when you promised her you’ll bring her to the pool. She got all excited and ready only to hear you say you are too tired and you will bring her next Saturday. Many Saturdays came. She got ready every Saturday only to hear you say the same thing. That’s when she stopped trusting people.

 

Remember that time, you were upset over a business deal and you took it out on your daughter for playing too loud. Now, she thinks it isn’t too safe to be happy.

 

Remember that time, you had no time to listen to her problems at school. That’s when she begun to think she wasn’t worthy of your time.

 

Remember that time, you caned her for not getting the math problem right. Now she thinks she is good for nothing.

 

Remember that time, you told her to shut up for crying too loud. That’s when she begun to think she can only make you happy by suppressing her own emotions.

 

And, that’s how your little girl ends up with that bad bad bad man. That man, who disrespects, crosses boundaries and uses her for psychological mind games.

 

When you ignored that little drawing, she learnt that a man who ignores her achievements is good for her.

When you laughed at her for falling from her bike, she learnt that a man who ridicules her is good for her.

When you broke promises, she learnt a man who doesn’t keep up promises is good for her.

When you scream at her for no reason, she learnt a man with a volatile temper is good for her.

When you have no time for her problems, she learnt a man who gives no shit about her is good for her.

When you beat her for screwing up, she learnt that its okay if a man physically abuses her,

When you scream at her for being expressive, she learnt to find a man who does what you exactly did to her.

 

Can you blame her? Parents are the first humans we come in contact with. Our first friends in the world. The first people we admire. They are the ones who will be our role model. Not only in becoming who we are. But, who we choose to be with.

If you can’t raise a child properly. Use a condom. Please.

2 thoughts on “Please don’t breed if you can’t be responsible.

  1. So true. I’m a male but i was the same as this little girl on all this points, with parents who weren’t ready to raise children properly. Until now (i’m 32) i always look for girlfriends who don’t respect me… because it’s the model of relashionship that i learned. I learned to be in love with it, and therefore to look for it. But now i’m conscious of all of this and i think i’m ready to break the cycle. Finding your text is a great echo of my reflexions during last few days!

    Also i decided (for more time) that i won’t never breed in this life. I don’t think i will be one day responsible enough to do it : i like freedom too much. Moreover, and that’s the main reason actually, i think humans are already to many on the planet.

    • It took me many years to figure out this pattern. I always concluded I was unlucky in love. But love is similar to karma. It serves you what you deserve. It’s not because we had a choice. We were emotionally schooled that way. The law of attraction serves you what you deserve. Recognition can help break that cycle. But it doesn’t end there. I learnt I have to work on myself and love myself in order to have what I want.

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